We can often grow too comfortable in our relationships with our partner. So how to save your relationship and bring back the spark.
The person you used to talk to for hours on the phone, discussed dreams with, and made fun of is now someone you feel obliged to be with! You still love your partner but at the same time you feel like you’re losing the spark in your relationship.
Have you ever felt this way?
Did you ask yourself if the spark would ever come back?
Life can indeed feel like a routine affair. At times, it may even seem like you’re treading down a beaten path. Relationships can also turn formulaic.
However, there is no need for you to keep it that way. There are ways to break out of a rut and infuse excitement and spice in your relationships!
Tips To Bring Back The Spark
Here are three tips to put smiles on each other’s lips (instead of yawns!):
1. Accept that every relationship goes through a rut.
If you have been together with your partner for quite a while, getting bored and losing that heart exploding, butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling is inevitable.
We’re always looking for the new, exciting things in life but you don’t always have to leave the old to experience the “exciting”.
First, you have to accept that this happens to every relationship, including yours. Then ask yourself, “What can you do about it?” and “How you can make little changes to keep the relationship moving forward?”
2. Never stop listening.
It is important for both of you to never stop listening to each other. Do you remember those days where you would hang on to every single word, your partner says?
Just because you feel that you know everything there is to know about your partner, it doesn’t mean that there’s nothing new that you will discover about him.
You will only be able to unravel something new, if you learn to listen again. Listening is one of the best ways to convey that you still value that person.
3. Make plans. Have fun!
When we reach a point in our relationship where we focus on responsibilities and obligations, we forget to have fun.
We seem to think that having fun is a waste of time. But having fun with each other and other people is one of the key ingredients of a successful relationship.
You can combat ‘relationship boredom’ by making plans and surprising each other in little ways. Here are tips to do so:
- Plan a vacation together.
- Sign up for workshops or join marathons.
- Send your partner sweet sticky notes.
- Whip up their favourite dish.
GET OUT of the ordinary and DO CRAZY STUFF once in a while!
You always have a choice to keep your relationship the way it is or you can turn it around by doing a few changes. Let the sparks fly once again and bring in large doses of excitement into your relationship.
You must make small changes in the way you think and act in order to bring back the spark in your relationships. Here are three tips to do so:
- Accept that every relationship goes through a rut.
- Never stop listening.
- Make Plans. Have Fun!
P.S. Register for your partner’s favourite event, either a music concert or just a movie and tell us if you think it helped?